Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been together for 6 years, including one year of marriage. His problem is that he doesn't know how to say "no." Even though we both work, I feel like he's taking care of two households - ours and his mother's. Her husband died a few years ago, so now it's just his mom and sister. Both women are of age to find employment, but they refuse to, because they rely on my husband as their source of income. He often complains of always having to give them money... when I say always, I mean every time he gets paid! He makes a substantial amount of money and we've discussed this situation on numerous occasions, even to the point where we're arguing about it. He always says he'll stop, but he never does. He always asks my opinion, but still does what he wants. My husband and I have told his mother and sister repeatedly that he's allowed to do what he wants with his money, but if they don't get what they want from him, they get upset and he runs right to them and gives them what they want to make them happy. I personally think they manipulate him because they know he's kind hearted. He's acknowledged that his mom and sister are this way, but he refuses to put an end to it. In the beginning, he said he was only doing it to it help them get on their feet after his father passed. But now it's like he can't stop. While I love my husband and my in-laws, I want this cycle to stop and I feel powerless to end it.
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